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Some people are full of confidence and able to meet even the most difficult challenge with an air of authority. A good level of self-esteem is essential for us to function successfully in our professional and personal lives. Sally Foan, principle trainer at The People Tree, looks at the importance of self-esteem and how we can build on it?



Every day we make decisions based partly on our level of self-esteem Cheap Colts Jerseys , and exhibit that level to those around us in a variety of ways. This behaviour influences others and how people then react to us, perpetuating the cycle.


Outside influences play a part in setting our level of self-esteem when we are children and as we grow up. These may have included the opinions of parents, teachers Nyheim Hines Hat , friends and family. What we need to do as adults is take a fresh look at our own opinion of ourselves. Is our long-held view accurate? Is our view ?rose-tinted? or unfairly negative? Bear in mind that the feedback we grew up with may have been fatally flawed. What if the people that influenced our self-worth were wrong? Perhaps we were bullied, or grew up in a challenging home which has left our self-confidence and self-esteem seriously dented.


As adults we have the opportunity to re-examine our level of self-esteem by seeking accurate feedback from people we respect. This process allows you to expand your understanding of yourself and this information can be valuable for fine tuning and optimising your performance in the workplace and beyond.


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Setting goals and achieving them will boost your self-esteem. Identify your training aspirations (that will broaden your professional skills) and support your future goals.


So, what if you do have the potential to achieve more and the only barrier is your self-esteem or self-worth? What if the things you?d realistically like to achieve are actually possible? Picture yourself and your future as one of the enormous super tankers out at sea. These massive ships can take a great deal of time to change course. Someone in the bridge Tyquan Lewis Hat , at the helm, needs to plan well ahead to change course for the future destination. The captain must allow for overall stability, external conditions and operational planning. Don?t wait for the ?perfect? captain or manager to steer your career Kemoko Turay Hat , you may wait forever, or you may already have one who is too challenged by tasks and workload to think for you. Take the helm yourself today and in a year?s time you?ll be glad you did.
Top tips for improving your self esteem


Learn how to feel good about yourself
Take time to remind yourself of all the things that you have accomplished. Remember your achievements and all the positive things that you do for yourself and others. We rarely hear the positives and yet we certainly hear any negatives ? and remember them long after we have forgotten all the nice things said about us or our performance. If you are a manager remember that each of your team will have positives that you can praise; take the time to find and highlight these.
"There isn't a ruler, a yard stick or a measuring tape in the entire world long enough to compute the strength
and capabilities inside you." PAUL MEYER


Surround yourself with good people
Friendship based on mutual trust and respect is a fundamental boost to our self-confidence. Avoid people that continually put you down or make you feel small or low.
?No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.? ELEANOR ROOSEVELT
?Surround yourself with people who lift you higher.? OPRAH WINFREY


Be well rounded
Don?t neglect your interests. When was the last time you did that hobby you love Quincy Wilson Hat , listened to your favourite music, or went to the theatre? Stay active; endorphins lift your spirits and staying healthy will make you feel better about yourself and your self-image. Take a pride in your appearance; it will do wonders for your self-confidence ? when you know you look good, others notice. Walk tall.


Avoid self-consciousness
If you are self-conscious in a social situation focus on the following:
Just because you lack confidence doesn?t mean others can tell.
Approach a group and introduce yourself. Ask questions and really listen to their answers
Finding out about the other people present will help make them (and you) feel more comfortable.
§Slow down and concentrate on others rather than yourself.


Accept criticism
If you are constantly saying things like ?I?m no good at anything? then you?re wrong. Self-esteem is not just about thinking positively about yourself all the time Malik Hooker Hat , it is about being realistic and about not thinking badly about yourself for no reason. Criticism can be a positive thing. If we can learn to see the positives of someone valuing us enough to give us honest feedback, or constructive criticism, we can improve our performance.


Set goals and meet them
The process of looking forward Braden Smith Hat , planning ahead, and accomplishing something can be very fulfilling.